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~Impact of Impasse~



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The new Matt Damon movie "Hereafter" plays in the corner of my office as I work this afternoon, the soft music and dim lighting helping to create an almost Shakespearean mood.........it is Saturday, and life in Austin is in full bloom.


This last week was full of finals and family responsibilities that kept me running almost everyday. Finally, with nothing to do but just absorb the world around me, I feel like a visitor returning home after years away. I scarce can believe it's already May. Last week's cool snap seemed to draw me back into December, and suddenly, almost violently, summer demands attention.


Austin Shakespeare presents "Love's Labour Lost" in the park, and I am about a month behind of creating my summer calendar of events for me and the girls. Kaitlyn has dress rehearsals on Saturdays all month with her final performance close to Melanie's graduation.


What blessings............to have a life enriched with love, growth and maturity. It was truly only yesterday that my precious girls were all babies. As a nurturing mother, I tried desperately to shield them from conflict and chaos believing the absence created the right conditions for contentment. Sadly, I have realized that life is full of conflict. Learning to deal with conflict is the essence of contentment. I wish I had learned this lesson many years ago.

Impasse occurs when two sides are unable to resolve situations and move forward. Not limited to emotions, impasse actually robs each side of the ability to cooperate on a solution. Many divorcing couples exemplify this exact principle in that each side has a staunch position and refuses to bulge.

The full impact of impasse reaches far into the future and mischieviously attempts to write directions for life's journey. Like seeds dormant in distressed soil, impasse does not die but merely waits. When that day in the future arrives that provides just the right conditions to unlock the domancy, impasse bursts full into the situation illustrating vibrantly what once had been.

Interchange impasse with denial, abuse, depression, codependency or any other word describing a person's inability to cope, and the theory holds true. Only by dealing with - COPING - can one actually cultivate a better future.

I have so much to say about this topic, but as I continue to blog off the top of my head, I realize just the outlining will serve to bookmark a place in my own understanding........I can return later if I decide to expand on this.
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